Boundaries

Jul. 22nd, 2017 01:02 pm
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People at work don't like me anymore, but I'm actually totally good with it because it's because I've been cutting the pushover phase of my life.

In some ways, it's fun.

Today Tracy and Tori were talking about Tyler and I was like, "Wow, that'll be so weird, now 'Tyler' will always mean the same person."

Tracy, "Yeah so now you can stop calling him mean names!"
Me, "He said he was okay with being called Tigger."
Tracy, "He hates it!"
Me, "Well if Tyler can't state his needs then he can get over himself."

I didn't even bring up the fact that he literally suggested the name personally. I had no idea his other job was playing Tigger until he suggested it as a nickname when we were talking about how to avoid Tyler-confusion. I just decided it wasn't something to feel guilty about since he's the one who suggested it and confirmed repeatedly he was totally fine with it. Maybe he'll learn to be direct.

Besides, he's the one talking about how great a co-worker he is and then trying to buy alcohol underage from me with hardly any discretion whatsoever. Except not actually going to the damn checkstand personally.

TL; DR: People are often two-faced and I don't really want to be in that flock anyway.




The refresher course is actually very short. I may be able to dive much sooner than I thought and start going to the diving club. Also, PADI offers dive courses with the academic component online now, and then you arrange to do the certification dives with a local instructor! So that will likely motivate me to dive more, knowing I can do the coursework on my own time and only worry about the dives themselves.

You get a new card when you do the refresher course. Though, it's not called a refresher course anymore. It's called ReActivate now.

One of my friends has a surfboard they don't use, so I'm getting a free surfboard to practice on! I can't wait. But if I'm going to the beach like an hour a or anything more frequent than once a week, I should probably get the parking permit. I'm also thinking about getting a bodyboard though. Just to practice paddling and catching the waves themselves. I forgot how exhausting it can be.

I figure I can bodyboard a bit almost every day if I get a wetsuit, then at the end of the week I can practice surfing.

Next weekend, I plan on doing the bungee jumping and paragliding. I really want to get trained in paragliding - I've wanted to for years. So I asked them if they have gift certificate options for that. But before I invest in getting licensed to fly, I should probably make sure I don't chicken out.

I mean, I like the idea of skateboarding, but I know in real life I am a skateboarder just as much as most of the people I try to hike with are hikers. As in, I don't really want to do it, I just think it looks/sounds cool and I wish I wanted to do it.

(Which is probably the same as clubbing. Except when you get me going, I actually do like to dance... Badly. Still, I think on my own, I would last an hour at most, not all night like other people can do.)

I ate much healthier today. It's like... After all that adrenalin, I don't even want to eat bad food. I tried eating junk food yesterday and I didn't even finish it, even though it was all I had eaten all day. Today I'm still on that high: No urge for sugary foods. I wanted my unsweetened iced teas again.

ADVENTURE IS THE CURE (OR AT LEAST MY CURE) TO OVER-EATING AND EATING LIKE A GARBAGE CAN.

I sort of already knew that - I know the more active I get, the less I want shitty food. But this weekend was a really good reminder of that.

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Jul. 22nd, 2017 06:06 pm
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Plans

Jul. 21st, 2017 10:05 pm
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I'm planning on getting a CostCo surfboard to practice. The people there say those surfboards are fine for beginners.

I noticed from the photos of me surfing that I have gained a lot of my old weight back (not so surprising - I've had a lot of sugars lately, and I've been eating a lot of fast food again.)

So Since I'm free Saturday mornings again I'm going to try to do the 5k runs regularly and then the 10k runs. I'll have to figure out the rest of the week.

Skydive SCUBA dive

Jul. 21st, 2017 04:35 pm
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I am literally taking the SCUBA refresher WHILE waiting to be suited up to skydive. #multitasking
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Poor Baby

Jul. 20th, 2017 08:40 pm
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This one character really hurts my heart in Strain. I mean, I know it's fiction, but he confronts his turned mother. Then he goes to an Indian restaurant where there's this woman he likes. Then her parents and this other character give him a shitty time til he leaves. Then his childhood hero (works in the Indian restaurant) treats him like a shitstain.

Like damn guys, you don't know what he just went through tonight! And all he did was tell your daughter to respect her mother because she'll miss her when she's gone!




I wish I had friends that were more into the outdoors/adventurous stuff. Jessica and Nick are more museum buddies.

I know, I know. I promised I wouldn't complain unless I didn't make friends while doing said things, instead of wishing they'd just like, randomly appear out of the ground. I'm working on it.

I also have Groupons for dance classes, so that gives me a few weeks of activity and something I'm interested in trying out without fleeing the country.

Uhm. I decided against the Himalaya trip in October (I'll use the credit to do it at another date.) It's too long a trip given what I'm trying to do this year. I really want to focus on the vocational things - e.g., the CNA course. Some of them have absolutely no leeway for taking up missed classes, so a two-week trip would be a bad idea. I may see about a shorter trip at some point, though.

I'll do local things I wanted to do this year, then use the credit to go next year. If I'm really lucky, by then I'll know someone I can invite so I'm not spending extra money to travel solo (though traveling solo sounds fun.)

... I hope I can learn paragliding this year.

On a Roll

Jul. 20th, 2017 07:17 pm
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So, I signed up for the skydive in Oceanside. I want to try to do a group outing too, but I also decided this year I'm going to stop waiting for people to be available and do things I want to do, when I want to do them.

I'm excited because the last time I went skydiving I didn't video. Paid for it. But they forgot to turn the camera on. (I still got photos, though.)

Also, this time I can wear whatever I want, since I'm not on vacation. At the very least, I can not be wearing black socks on my bare legs.

Anyway, I thought, "I have the whole DAY off tomorrow (and Saturday I work in the afternoon) why don't I try something else as well?"

So... What else is on my list of things I've wanted to do?

I was trying to think about what I... Like I want to do. Really specifically me, nothing to do with what other people want to do.

I think I want to avoid rock-climbing for now. I want to climb, but mostly I want to climb for fitness reasons. I don't feel the urge to scale mountains the way my sister does. That's not my thing.

SCUBA takes too much time. I really want to do it, but I need to plan out trips, take other classes (I want to learn cave/wreck diving.) I'd like to get a case for my phone so I can take photos. (What a day. I don't need a waterproof camera. There are houses for iPhones.)

I want to do bungee jumping, but fitting that all into one weekend might be too difficult and/or expensive. (Also, it's something I'd like to do for the purpose of being certified.)

I'm thinking surfing or wind-surfing. I really want to do both (especially wind-surfing.)

But surfing might be easier because there are local lessons offered. I can't seem to find wind-surfing lessons. Plus, surfing I can do here any time. You have to find places/conditions for wind-surfing.




I'm not going to avoid co-workers, but I am going to do things on my own a while too, meet people in relation to the activity instead of work environment. I think that if I do the things I'm talking about, people will be more likely to take those plans seriously because they'll want to do them. (Well, maybe not for the hiking.)

Since I'm not working Saturday mornings now, I may also start trying to regularly do 5ks. I've really wanted to do that. And now I have Saturday mornings.




Okay so:

1. Surfing tomorrow morning.
2. Skydiving tomorrow afternoon.
3. 5k Saturday morning.
4. Photography Sunday.

BOOM. Plans set. I want to do wind-surfing really badly. But I think I want to learn something I can do just any old day ASAP.

Skydiving!!!

Jul. 20th, 2017 04:49 pm
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I booked a skydiving trip for tomorrow!!

I'd been waiting to go in Monterey (world's highest tandem dive) but I'll try later in the year.

I'm also thinking about surfing lessons. I'd been wanting to a while. But I have two days off this week.

Then I'm also trying to figure out where I want to take photos this weekend.

hi!

Jul. 19th, 2017 02:12 am
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Fannish Interests: Gosh, okay, I like a lot of things. But I also need to catch up on a lot of things. That's my problem.

I watch a lot of tv. Right now I'm watching shadowhunters and deciding if I want to catch up on Teen Wolf or not. My love for Scott McCall is enternal though. 

I really enjoy pokemon,  digimon,  yugioh,  sailor moon, power rangers, tf&f series, harry potter, kingdom hearts, and classic spn. all of those were my fandoms before I ever knew what fandom meant. i am casually into new doctor who but Ten was my first doctor and my favorite era. I'm always there for the companions the most though and I love bill potts so much. i love sherlock holmes adaptations but i gotta say my favorite is elementary. i'm also into low energy video games so pretty much anything nintendo and the sims. I'm a little obsessed with the sims and the fandom it has on youtube. just a little. Superheroes are cool too! I like the mcu and dcu but i haven't watched all of it yet bc reasons. Omg star wars is a big one lately too. and the new Star Trek and hopefully the new series!! as for cartoons steven universe is like the best thing that ever happened to me probably. aaaand books!! gosh do i hope to actually start to read books. The last full thing I read that wasn't fanfiction was the hunger games.

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I'll mostly comment on stuff for a while probably. I have a strict rule that is if I see an entry/read a fic/etc I comment on it. <3

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Jul. 17th, 2017 12:25 pm
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My last three posts were about: RP, reconnecting with long lost writing partners, and storylines for my Travie McCoy muse.

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How about commenting?: I love commenting and interacting, for sure.

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Jul. 17th, 2017 10:44 am
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Hello! Like many people, I'm a longtime Livejournaler who's working on making the switch over to Dreamwidth. But I've had my journal there since 2001--that's pretty much my entire adult life! Change is hard! In order to help me shift my focus over here instead of over there, I'd like to see if I can establish a more active group of DW-friends. Let me tell you a little bit about myself and my journal.

About me:
My name is Katie, I'm 38, I'm queer, and I'm female. I'm a writer and writing tutor by profession (I write fiction and book reviews; I tutor high school students and beginning creative writers). I grew up in the Hudson Valley in New York State, and currently live in Philadelphia. I live in a very old house with my girlfriend of eighteen years and our two cats. I love to read (favorite writers include E.M. Forster, Marilynne Robinson, Virginia Woolf, Pat Barker, Ursula K. Le Guin, George Saunders, etc). I also like cooking, baking, canning, and food preservation of all kinds; hiking and bird watching; gardening; swimming; watching baseball.... I'm a rather typical introvert and lead a fairly quiet life. I drink entirely too much tea.

About my journal:
I began my LJ as a reading journal, and still often post informal book reviews and thoughts on whatever I happen to be reading at the moment. In addition to writing about books, I often post about food and the projects I undertake in the kitchen. Sometimes I use my journal to track goals. Sometimes I write about the things that are going on in my life. Rarely (very rarely) I share my writing. Sometimes I post about art, or the creative process, or a quotation that caught my attention. I tend to post about once or twice a week. There are often photos. I keep my journal friends-only, but if any of this sounds interesting to you I will be happy to add you so you can check it out. No harm done if it turns out to not be your style after all!

What I'm Looking For:
Like I said, I'm transitioning from using LJ as my main online home, and am looking for a more active friends list here on DW. I like genuine connections and interesting conversations. I'd love to meet people who share my interests, especially fellow book-nerds who want to geek out about literature with me. Outdoorsy folks, creative folks, thinkers, makers, teachers, learners.... I can't promise to be the world's greatest commenter and I don't expect you to be either, but I would like to talk to each other at least occasionally.

Say hello! Let's get to know each other!
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On Memo and Guillermo del Toro

Jul. 16th, 2017 10:01 am
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So because of the Memory Lane trip Guillermo del Toro sent me on, I tried to look up Memo and see if he ended up marrying Andrea, or if they got engaged.

(Memo was always on a deadline to get married by the time he was twenty-eight, so I wanted to see if he was 'on schedule.')

I didn't see anything definitive. I hope they did, but on the other hand, I have a feeling if he got married he would blast wedding photos all over his FaceBook page and it would be in his status and in fact I probably would have somehow heard it even though there's literally no one we have mutual contact with anymore.

I might have to message him about this Guillermo del Toro thing. I don't think that would offend his sensibilities, lol. It's been a long time, but we never technically ended on bad terms. I just was honest and said hey, I don't think I can be friends with you right now.

Mostly Good

Jul. 16th, 2017 12:07 am
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Today was mostly good. Slept in late, went to work, and work was pretty good because I've been using listening/communicating techniques to have better conversations with customers.

Typically, I'm very introverted and I'd much sooner sit in my room all day reading, writing, sketching than interacting with people. I'm trying to force myself to expand, but then, I've tried for years. I want to make connections with people, and I'm not good at it. And you really see that when I am dealing with customers because unless there is a mutual interest to engage in (e.g. A customer wearing a "Hey Arnold!" shirt) there's no communication, or it's really one-way (with me being the speaker. In this case, they've triggered an obsessive-interest topic, in which I start talking like an encyclopedia.)

It's not 100%. I'm trying to practice skills I'm reading about, but there are still some customers I really struggle to engage with, or I struggle because I'm stuck in my thoughts and can't seem to get out (being present is an issue I have a hard time with.)

But today a customer came through using EBT and they were wearing a lot of fancy clothes and accessories. I didn't notice, because I don't tend to care about that stuff.

The customer after them comes up and complains about people on food stamps spending money on designer clothes.

So, instead of arguing or refuting their point:

"I get that. It seems insensible to spend extra money on fancy things. I can see more than one side to it, though, because I've read studies that show prospective employers favor employees that are dressed in higher-end clothes, and if they notice they are driving nicer cars."

And this customer was like, "Hmm, you know, you're right!" Turned out she was a recruiter so she actually knew of and employed this type of knowledge in her line of work. And we started having this really fascinating conversation about her work. It was completely fascinating!

WOW.

Maybe someday I can do that with MOST of my customers!

I mean, I would rather work as a nurse or a counselor or social worker. Something where I'm helping people. But the same applies there. I want to learn how to connect with people better. I like watching people really into a topic. I like seeing people happy. It was nice to have triggered (positively) another person into a really engaging conversation in which they were an equal or even primary participant.

I don't know how much or how fast I can learn this stuff, but I can see it doing me good. It can also help me with being present. I really struggle with daydreaming or getting stuck in my thoughts. It's not that I don't care about people. It's just like... No matter how I try, I'll get stuck in something.




I did try to busy-body into another co-worker's business, though. I realized I was going to do that and was going to try to back out, but then she was off the clock.

See, this employee is an ~18 year old who is planning on leaving this store to work at a clothes retailer, because she wants to make more money. So I told her I wouldn't do that and she asked if I really hated working clothes store retailers.

So I explained that the reason I was saying that was because:

1. Clothes retailers, bookstores, department stores, etc. tend to give hours much more seasonally. If you're getting paid 11/hour but making 40-48 hours a week, you'll make more money than 13/hour but 4-40 hours a week pending on the time of year. You get much more regular hours in grocers, so you end up making more money.

2. Union grocery stores promote from within, fast, and you learn more specialized tasks much faster, so you're likely to get more experience than just 'cashier' which will look better on a resume.

Then I said I wasn't saying specifically to stay at the grocery store, just that, if I had done things over from high school, I would have avoided retail altogether in favor of trying to develop vocational skills through ROP and other resources, and if I ended up in retail, I'd have preferred a grocery store.

Turns out, she's already done ROP courses, but she can't find a job relating to her ROP course. But her main reason is because it pays more hourly and it's the job all her friends work at.

I was going to tell her she should do it if she really thinks it will make her happy, but she also might want to look into other vocational studies where she'd be making more than that job and/or getting similarly relevant work experience.

But it got busy, so she went away.

I sort of hope she thinks about the vocational aspect though. I know it's tempting to work for a higher hourly wage or to work with friends. But long-term it means so much more to have meaningful, relevant work experience. I feel like retail - especially non-grocer retail - really put me into a dead-end in life for a very long time where prospective employers didn't see marketable job skills, relevant work experience, and saw that 'part-time' part of my work history and did not want to employ me at full-time. In fact, a lot of them seemed to think I must want seasonal work. And it's hard to explain that in such a condensed timeframe.




A co-worker tried to come through my line and buy alcohol for another (underage) co-worker. (They were not being stealthy. They were literally shopping together right until check-out.)

To which I said, "I can't sell you alcohol because I know you're going to drink with someone underage."

So they went to go buy alcohol from another store.

It's funny because the underage coworker talks about their work ethic and professionalism, but if that were so, why would they risk two other co-workers' jobs for alcohol? Not to mention a possible $100,000 fine and up to six months' jail time.

Like I say to anyone else I don't sell alcohol to: "I don't know you well enough to do six months in the pokey for you."

Not my business, I guess. Unless it's me you're trying to get alcohol from. Then it's my business.




I was thinking about inviting Patrick out to hike again tomorrow - I could get up early enough to do so. But I'll try inviting him next week, because I believe I get out of work earlier and will have more time to sleep. But I want to try hiking with my camera equipment a bit so next time we go hiking I'm not slowing him down.

Next week my schedule officially changes at First Job. So there won't be any more conflicts with Full-Time job. But I'm struggling:

1. I have a lot of responsibilities at First Job. I'm trained in a cyclically very under-staffed department (and more specifically, I am sufficiently trained to manage it if the management cannot.) I'm not supposed to be scheduled there anymore, but I end up there a lot due to said understaffing. I'm also trained as a back-up bookkeeper, though I am currently not allowed to bookkeep except in extenuating circumstances because it's seen as a conflict of interest to book keep when you're on register.

Then on top of that, they've put me in charge of safety. Now, 'being in charge of safety' is supposed to mean that I hand the paperwork out to department heads and they do their work, I fill things out on the safety website, I print the minutes and lead the safety part of the meeting.

Instead it means "I do all the safety work." According to the assistant manager.

That's a futile job. One person can't make over a hundred people safe. They all have to be participating. It basically sounds like there is no safety culture, there's not gonna be a safety culture, so just do it.

I'm going to try to simplify it, organize it, make a system and try to bring in more people to participate. I made a system for transferring merchandise in Starbucks. I can make a system for people in the rest of the store that's simple and, hopefully, rewarding. Hopefully if I can do that, I can make the safety culture people are so resistant to and do less work. Ideally the program wouldn't exist anymore because everyone would be watching everyone else's backs.

2. I love the work at Full-Time job (I'm hoping to develop skills so maybe someday I can be involved more on the other side of things or feel more competent/confident during day work.) However, the rules are changing up from when I was hired.

This may be good. Maybe it will mean more work that is geared toward our professional development. I don't know yet because we don't have the new task list. The work we've been given to date is mostly custodial, but that it's less than half the picture if I understand correctly.

So it may be really good. I'm trying to remain positive and assume it won't all be custodial. I don't have a problem doing custodial work, if I feel the work will also lead to professional development. I told them I think we could probably clean the common/public areas each night and then focus on 2-4 additional rooms each night.

If it's all custodial, then that will be really great for a student just making their way, but probably not so much for me who has been hoping to get units, volunteer work, supervised and clinical hours.

But until I know, I'm just jumping to conclusions and guessing. It's really hard for me not to do that. Also, I feel like a lot of my ideas get shut down really quickly. Granted, not by supervisors, but by immediate co-workers I rub elbows with.

For instance, I threw out a suggestion that maybe we get more supplies so that the work can be divided among 3-4 staff in the morning instead of just being the burden of one staff, and someone told me if I suggested it, I would be in trouble for over-stepping.

I suggested making a checklist we sign off on tasks, so that 1. We knew more explicitly what was supposed to be done and 2. We'd know if it was done already and 3. Who had done it. I was told that was a bad idea and people would hate it.

I was also working (in conjunction to being told to do custodial work) a room check-off list. In the form a person would write the room that was being detail-cleaned, and check off things inspected. (Windows. Locks. Doors. Outlets. Etc.)

No one explicitly shot that down. But no one said anything positive about it. It was like I'd never suggested it at all. Which might be good, because it might mean I'm seriously overestimating how much of the work they want to give us is custodial versus career-centered. Maybe they were like, "What? This is all housework. Doesn't she know about all this administrative stuff she's supposed to be doing?"

Though I suppose it might also mean that they saw my suggestion of cleaning the common areas and then additionally cleaning 2-4 rooms a night and thought that wasn't enough. But until I hear a response and see an updated list, I'm just guessing with no real idea of what is coming my way. Which is pointless.

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Describe yourself in five sentences or less: I'm fairly new here, but not new to fandom. I write fanfiction and I fandom-hop without rhyme or reason. I'm currently in a lot of small fandoms, and I love to add more, so feel free to try to get me obsessed with your favorite fandom. IRL, I'm a sleep scientist who doesn't sleep enough. I talk about my girlfriend a lot.

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I'm going to cheat, but in my defense, I am in so many fandoms...
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The Goblin Emperor
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Haikyuu!!


I mostly post about: Fanfiction, logic puzzles, fandom things. I'll probably start posting about my life at some point, but those won't be public

I rarely post about: politics, specifics about my work.

My last three posts were about: A logic puzzle and some fanfiction exchange/challenge stuff.

How often do you post?: Not much right now - I'm new here. But I imagine I'll be posting at least once every week, if not more.

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The Strain - Guillemero Del Toro

Jul. 14th, 2017 10:02 pm
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My brother introduced me to The Strain, an FX show. I'm going to avoid binge-watching it. But what I found interesting about it is that it's actually a show we both love, which is an unusual phenomenon. It was created by Guillermo del Toro, which is probably why.

Guillermo del Toro really makes me think of Memo. I think that was one of his biggest role models. But I like it regardless. Just, it has that little extra bit.

Last week I finally bought eczema lotion for my hands. They're not fully back to normal, but they're distinctively less lizard-looking. I have to be really on top of it though. This weather really brings it out.

Tomorrow I'm going to try an Al-Anon group. I'm not really sure what will become of it. I mean, yes, I live with an alcoholic, drug addicted person with a mood and personality disorder (who is in a mutually codependent relationship with another drug addict.)

I live with a person trying to protect, control, and change said person who has become codependent (if he wasn't already. I think he's been that way for as long as I can remember.)

And I've realized this is messing me up.

I know I need to get out, but it's not as easy as 1-2-3. There's the lease (through March). That's my deadline for getting some entry vocational skills and unloading any previous debt. I don't need to be making enough money to live 100% on my own without roommates next year. I just need to be on a career track.
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Two posts, one on a 'thinking' theme and mixed fannish and general, the other a small group of fannish ones done for challenges...
Fandoms are {deep breath} Arthur of the Britons, Blakes 7, Dr Who, Jeeves and Wooster, Magnificent 7, Merlin, Primeval, Stargate SG-1, Stargate Atlantis, The Sentinel and White Collar, plus one each for The Avengers, Chalet School, Man from Uncle and Muppet Show, a few classic film ones, and some general.

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The posts are here and here...


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